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Dating Turn-offs

by: Amy Schoen

Based upon my questionnaire for singles, the following dating “turnoffs” were prevalent:

• Appearing nervous and anxious on the date
• Appearing high maintenance?
• Not mentioning that you have children upfront
• Lying about some personal aspect prior to first meeting, i.e., truth in advertising (age, career, weight, financial situation)
• A cheap guy: i.e., the guy expecting the gal to pay exactly half
• Talking about your ex
• Arrogant assumptions (Assuming your date likes everything you do!— plans, food, activities)
• Crude remarks or insensitivity
• Rude Behavior (Bad manners towards waiters and other service people)
• Bragging about your salary or material stuff
• Giving third degree questioning like you are a reporter on 60 Minutes!
• Taking out your glass eye and other disgusting habits
• A person not well-groomed or sloppy (self, home, car)
  • Poor shaving, bad breath, wrinkled clothes, unkempt hair, and beard, body-odor
• Not able to hold a two way conversation (like pulling teeth!)
• Acts like the date is a business meeting
• Overly eager person who is over the top! (big bouquet on first date)
• Someone not considerate of your time
• Waits until the day of the date to finalize plans for the date
• Coming late for the date with no good reason and no call telling you that they’d be late.
• An overly scheduled person (Too many things planned: Both for the date and after the date)
• Trying to get too personal on the first couple of dates. Don’t let it all hang out yet.
• Unreliable- not following through on what you said you would do, when you said you would do it
• Too “hands on” on the first date (before getting to know you or getting the green light!)
• Unrealistic expectations: instant relationship (Expects there is a relationship before there really is one).

About the Author:

Amy Schoen, principal of Heartmind Connection (http://www.heartmindconnection.com ) has been transforming people to be their best for over 20 years. Amy has the gift of visualization and uses it to help her clients visualize the kind of life they truly desire. Contact Amy at CoachAmy@heartmindconnection.com or 240-498-7803 for a complimentary phone coaching session and learn how to make the best decisions for you using both the heart and your mind.

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